Ego vs Self-esteem
David Sammel's theory of ego:
"I have the belief that in order to succeed, one should first build up the ego to muster the drive and ambition to succeed.
Once you begin to have some success it becomes obvious that the ego prevents you from attaining peace of mind with the success.
Humility is actually more powerful. In reality very few people get close to being ego-less, but being aware that it is a goal will create greater balance and personal security.
It is my firm view that no matter what the success the following is true";
Big ego = low self esteem
Humble = pride of performance = high self esteem
Nothing to prove (therefore harmony)
No need to put others down (therefore respected)
No need to control (therefore others flourish)
No need to be right (therefore less stress)
Ego and self become one, therefore ego-less
Big ego characteristics: Fearful, insecure and attack-minded
Big ego people would rather be right and mess up than admit frailty! Both introverted and extroverted big egos are afraid they will be found out and not be supermen – this is dumb because everyone generally knows the truth anyway. They tend to be blinded by arrogance because big ego people think others are stupid and cannot see through them and the fear behind the ego.
Big ego characteristics: There are two types of ego. The subtle or introverted big ego or the extrovert.
It is more difficult for subtle or introverted big ego type of person to succeed in high-level sport.
They tend to have the following characteristics:
1. Put others down behind their back
4. Can be lazy and moody
5. Quiet with smug knowing grins
6. Try to show how clever they are in outwitting others (even if it means losing)
7. Let themselves off the hook (blame others with a victim mentality)
Big ego characteristics of the extroverted ego
2. Put others down to their face, claiming honesty, a 'tell it like it is' mentality"
3. Exaggerates or tell lies
4. Think they are always right
5. Show off
8. High capacity for hard work and want everyone to know and praise them for their achievements
9. Try to control others
10. Often successful in their jobs, but have problems in relationships and personal happiness
by David Sammel